Start And Keep Going
Updated: Feb 23, 2020
Trying to develop a new healthy habit or move towards a career/relationship goal?
Don't overthink it. Just start. Don't wait for all the excuses to bubble up. You have a small window of time between initial curiosity and blind acceptance of your own and others' excuses. Take action as soon as you decide you want to.
Mel Robbins explains this science-backed 5 second window in her book and TED Talk: The 5-Second Rule:
"When you feel yourself hesitate before doing something that you know you should do, count 5-4-3-2-1-GO and move towards action.
There is a window that exists between the moment you have an instinct to change and your mind killing it. It’s a 5 second window. And it exists for everyone."
If you feel inspired or curious to try something new and brave (and I don't mean buy some cure-all product that will get used once or not at all, I mean put in the effort to make your body, your relationships, or your impact on the world better).
Don't put it off until tomorrow. Get started in some small way and let the clarity and vigor of actually doing something fuel your next steps.
I have struggled every which way with getting things started AND keeping them going. I have read a dozen or so artist-minded self help books for motivation and time management but I also have a Master's Degree in talking myself out of sh*t. I wish there was an award for 'Most Creative Means of Self Sabotage' because I feel like I'd be in the running, year after year. I have flipped my self-help habits in on themselves, blamed money and time and other people, cleaned my entire apartment and car just to distract myself from training/moving forward, and berated myself for all of the above.
No, stop it, I'll say to myself as I put off going to dance class for the 100th time.
Focus on what matters, I'll say, as I check every single Instagram notification and proceed to scroll mindlessly for minutes untold.
You'd think I would learn.
I have to remember that I've already fought through a few big hurdles and accomplished some things. An imperfect process, sure, but I've honestly achieved a few of the things I set out to achieve. I just have to keep it simple:
1. Start by starting, then don't give up. Don't give up halfway through the audition. Don't make thinly veiled excuses for sabotage.
2. Let setbacks land and just find another way. Focus on the next attempt, not the reasons there needed to be one.
3. Stick to a pattern of committing to something every day. This is my 21st blog post in 21 days- I've taken the when?/how much? out of the writing equation and I'm continuing to do exactly what I set out to do.
4. Forgive the inevitable slip-ups, take a 5 second window to reassess and KEEP GOING at all costs.
5. Don't worry about what people think. Don't analyze who's reading and why. Just keep writing. Keep auditioning. Keep training. Keep making your life better.
I didn't know I needed to give myself a pep talk until I sat down to write. Funny how that works. :)
Quickly, Loosh! Just kick your face and don't ask questions. Heard.